Life is full of injustice, but all claims of injustice are not necessarily so. One of the claims that gets me steamed the quickest is for someone to scream “sexism” because someone dared to challenge a female type’s behavior, actions or words, or fail to give her a job that doesn’t even exist.
One of my favorite stories to tell is about the time I was in the back, when I heard a woman screaming in the front office. Of course, I went rushing up there to find out what was going on. There was this out-of-control woman screaming discrimination and threatening to sue. Okay.
The man she was screaming at, said something to the effect, “There she is.”
The woman gave me an ugly smug look and said she was not talking about a secretary.
He said, ” She is the owner.”
With that, the woman turned and huffed her little rear on out of the office.
I’ve never forgotten that moment.
The woman had come in and asked to apply for a job. All she was told was that there were no openings at the moment, but if she would leave, or drop off, her resume she would be considered when something did open up. She went ballistic claiming she was being discriminated against because she was a woman etc. etc. etc. He kept trying to tell her that wasn’t the case because… , but she was too busy yelling to listen.
I wouldn’t have hired that woman under any circumstances after the tantrum I witnessed.
As a female law enforcement officer, I never asked to be excused from responsibility for my actions because the big bad male officers were picking on little ole me. If I screwed up — “I” as a law enforcement officer screwed up. If I were held accountable, it was as a “law enforcement officer” and not a single thing to do with my gender. So, I don’t take too kindly to women trying to claim a right to a position, while then claiming special treatment rights that forbid accountability expectations, or they are the victims of discrimination and sexism.
Discrimination also includes the expectation of being held to a lesser standard than anyone else in the same position.
Sexism also includes the expectation of being held to a lesser standard than anyone else in the same position.
The unforgivable offense of sexism and discrimination is to claim it when none exists and thus makes the “claimer” guilty of the claim instead. It becomes an unfair ploy. There is no excuse!